weigh-in wednesday thursday

I'm feeling posty today, so let's go ahead with this week's Weigh-In Wednesday question:

How do you feel about weight and fitness in regards to your lovelife? Would be involved with a person who weighed the same or more than you?

I used to be attracted to tall, fit guys, despite my body being the opposite of tall and fit. I think it had something to do with my brothers all being tall and skinny, and looking up to them. That said...weight was never really the issue as much as height. I was always more likely to be attracted to an overweight tall guy than a short thin one. It's important to me that a guy be taller than me...there's just something sexy about having to look up to kiss someone.

Also, a guy at 5'10" and 185 looks a lot different than a woman at 5'5" and 185. I've always been a little disturbed when dating men who weighed less than me. They always seemed frail. If I had to choose an ideal, I think it would be between 5'7" and 6'1", 180-230 lbs. Someone substantial.

When I met Rob, he was about 250 to my 175 or so, and I've never had a problem with his weight. If I had met him when I was 16 (before a twice-failed relationship, two other jerks, and a kid), I'm not sure that I would have been attracted to him then. At 22, though, I was ready to value personality over size. He does look better at 210 - 220 than he does at 250, but it's always been a non-issue. I haven't been at anywhere near a goal weight since he's known me, so if he's willing to see the positive in my body, I can see the good in his.

Besides, he's pretty cute at any size. Or I think so, anyway.